What do you gain from caring about what other people think?

What do we gain from caring about what other people think?

Worrying about what others think can be traced back to fear of not belonging, losing connection, isolation, loneliness, being called weird, spoiled sport, being a laughing stock and so on, I think you get the gist.

So what?
Let’s explore a little bit further…
Is it wrong to want to belong?
Is it wrong to want to have connections with people, not feel isolated and lonely?
Is it wrong to not want to be called weird, a laughing stock?

I hope your answer is the same as mine = NO.

Connection is our birthright and so is authenticity.
Our authenticity should not be compromised for connection.
They go side by side.

As a child, you might have to suppress your authenticity in order to maintain connection with your parents, teachers, friends as it was the safest way for you to do this and to survive.
For many of us who have had to do this, we’re still operating in survival mode when it comes to ways of wanting connection even though it’s no longer a threat that as adults we can be free to be ourselves and choose.

Worrying about what others think causes a huge degree of anxiety and we’ve got so good at masking it by our eagerness to please and inability to say no to gain others’ approval, believing that this is how we justify that our existence is valid and we’re worthy.

If getting approval from others is what you’re gaining, my question is
‘What is it costing you?’
If this resonates with you, I would love to invite you to do your own exploration and feel free to let me know your response ❤️

Love Claryn xxx

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