I spent years proving my worth through over-giving.

I know what it’s like to filter yourself in relationships, to say “I’m fine” when you’re not, to stay quiet because you’re afraid of being too much, or not enough.

I believed that being agreeable, selfless and easy to love would keep me safe. It left me exhausted and unseen, even in my closest relationships.

I wasn’t afraid of conflict. I was afraid of being abandoned if I showed up as my full self.

The dependable one

I was the over-giver. The peacekeeper who made space for everyone else’s needs but my own. No matter how much I achieved, it never felt like enough, because underneath all the doing was one question: if I stopped over-giving, would anyone still stay?

I started my career in neuro critical care nursing, supporting people through some of their most vulnerable moments. I trained as a Specialist Community Public Health Nurse, completed an MSc in Medical and Healthcare Education, and worked for 12 years as an NHS Health Visitor and Practice Teacher. I was accomplished and respected. I was also a mother and a wife, and like so many women I measured my worth by how much I could carry. Privately, I was running on empty.

Then came a diagnosis of CPTSD, and a chronic health condition. My body had been asking for my attention for years. I finally listened.

That’s when I saw it clearly. My perfectionism, people-pleasing and overachieving weren’t personality traits. They were survival strategies. And I wasn’t exhausted from doing too much. I was exhausted from abandoning myself to avoid discomfort.

What changed

Healing didn’t come from pushing harder. It came from turning inward, with compassion.

I unlearnt the belief that setting boundaries makes you difficult, that expressing your needs makes you demanding, and that staying small is the price of being loved.

Through inner child work, breathwork, nervous system work and somatic enquiry, I learned to trust my voice without shrinking it, to set boundaries without guilt, and to be myself in relationships without fearing I’d lose love.

How I work now

I’ve spent 31 years in healthcare. I’m trained in Compassionate Inquiry, the method developed by Dr Gabor Maté and Sat Dharam Kaur, and I work with breathwork, parts work, inner child work and somatic enquiry.

Does any of this sound familiar?

• Filtering your truth in relationships

• Feeling unseen, even by people who say they love you

• Giving endlessly, but struggling to receive

• Replaying conversations, wondering if you were too much

If so, you’re welcome here.

What do you need right now?

Rooted · one-to-one coaching
For when you understand exactly why you do it, and do it anyway. This starts where understanding stops. Two 60-minute sessions a month, rolling, no contract.
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Breathwork · online sessions
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See you soon!

Claryn xo

Professional Qualifications, training and Education

Certified Professional Breathwork Practitioner 800-Hours - Alchemy of Breath (2024) | Global Professional Breathwork Alliance (2025)

Sound Healing Practitioner - IPHM Accredited Training (2024)

Compassionate Inquiry Professional Training (2022)

Certified Women’s Coach - One of many™ (2020)

Registered Yoga Teacher 350-Hours - Hatha, Yin, Restorative (2019), Yoga Nidra (2021) and Myo Yin (2023)

Health Coach - Institute for Integrative Nutrition (IIN) (2017)

Specialist Community Public Health Nurse (Health Visitor) (BA Honours) (2006)

Registered Nurse (1995)

Registered Nurse Teacher (2015)

MSc Medical and Healthcare Education (2015)