Connect with your body and relieve your anxiety

Do you worry a lot when people don’t respond straight away or quickly enough when you contact them and always fear the worst with thoughts like they might reject you, you might have asked the wrong question or you should have said it this way etc, you know the gist right?

Does waiting for a respond cause you a huge amount of anxiety that to take your mind off it, you find things to do? Do you feel jittery and keep checking your phone for a response and can’t relax until you get a response?

I used to be like that a lot!
When I traced it back to its source, I knew exactly how I became this way. My environment was pretty unstable when I grew up. Right from a young age, I lived in a volatile household. I learned very early on to read my parents’ mood in order to avoid or not to upset them. Looking back it must have been very scary and traumatic.

I didn’t even realise I grew up with anxiety. Why would I if I was high achieving, very organised and successful in my job? I hid my anxiety well and it definitely played a major role in my achievements. But evidently my body was better at knowing and had been trying to tell me that things weren’t right but I ignored it. I was too busy listening to my toxic thoughts and worrying about what other people were saying and doing; and this was hard to let go of.

Gradually I learned to get to know my body. It was a struggle to connect with it at first. But now I am much better at tuning into my body and doing something about it when my anxiety creeps in.

There are lots of tools out there including yoga, meditation, journaling, play, breathwork and so on to choose from as ways to connect with our body and calm our thoughts and as a result manage our anxiety.

It is about making a conscious commitment to ourselves to do this diligently. It requires time, patience and dedication. You have got to want to do it for yourself.
Start small. Do what works for you.
Then start.

Let me know in the comment if this is helpful.

Love Claryn xxx

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