Compassionate Inquiry and somatic - based Coaching.
Trauma-informed practice.
Conscious Connected Breathwork
Sound Healing/Therapy
Does this pattern sound familiar?
If it does then congratulations, that’s a great awareness and awareness is always our first step towards change.
Let’s explore a little further.
It’s familiar because it’s stemmed from early experiences - probably from childhood - and you’ve been repeating the pattern ever since.
Can you remember a time where you felt that you were only given attention and praise when you achieved something? Maybe good grades, a trophy or medal? Or for being a good girl?
But otherwise, you were ignored, not given attention and left to your own devices and if you made a mistake, you’d be punished for it.
So you grew up with these beliefs:
To be loved I have to be a good girl
To be worthy I have to work hard
To fit in I have to say Yes to everything
Which, by the way, was the right thing to do at the time, because by believing these, you protected yourself. You couldn’t tell anyone how you felt, especially not your parents. You really wouldn’t like to upset them.
To this day you keep believing these beliefs on some level, that you aren’t worthy or lovable. And your achievements, successes and hard work become the tangible proof that you are.
Despite the successes, you still doubt yourself a lot and need constant approval and reassurance. So you work harder and do even more; and take on the responsibility of pleasing other people.
Pleasing others has always been what you’ve been led to believe to be the right thing to do… and in the process you lost yourself.
But you don’t stop there.
You blame yourself, feel guilty and frustrated because deep down you still feel you never do enough.
When things become too much, you get triggered easily and get so angry that you blow up and regret afterwards.
This feels (and is!) toxic, unhealthy and disempowering and leaves you anxious, overwhelmed and stressed.
Unable to confidently ask for what you want or need in both your personal and professional relationships, you end up sacrificing YOUR desires.
You crave a sense of connection, balance and harmony.
Professionally you know you’re amazing at what you do and people respect you, but deep down you’ve never felt that you deserve it.
In your personal relationships you don’t know how to ask for what you need without upsetting your loved ones.
You definitely don’t want to come across as selfish or uncaring as you’d feel horrified and terrible if you were perceived this way.
What you really want is to be at ease and confident with being who you are, acknowledging your successes, and feeling free to explore new opportunities that are aligned with your purpose.
This is where I come in.
If we fail to do that, we end up beating ourselves up or blaming others. We get triggered easily and respond negatively. It can feel like the world is against us and we feel alone in our thoughts and pains.
We sabotage ourselves because it somehow feels safe; it’s what we know and can control.
Through my years of experience, I know how to overcome people-pleasing and break free from the patterns that leave you exhausted, unhappy and disconnected.
I will support you to create new ways of thinking and being in your relationships without losing yourself.
Do you know that you sabotage yourself?
Do you blame yourself when things go wrong?
Do you get triggered easily and respond negatively?
If so, firstly, it’s OK if you answered yes to all of these.
Secondly, considering your childhood experiences, it’s a normal response.
Thirdly, I’m here to show you that it is possible to manage your triggers and create new patterns that will empower you.
Ready to dive in deeper? Start with my free guide.