When 'I know' isn't enough

The words ‘I know’ I used to use really often, and even now I catch myself think and say when I hear something that I already know thinking that ‘I know’. Do you know what I mean and can you resonate with this?

But now, most of the time I’m more aware as I think of those words when I hear or listen to someone say something or read something. It was not until recently that I realised what saying those words meant or had implications to. It may not sound like a great deal. So what if I think or say that. One, it closes you up to listening and two, just because you know it doesn’t mean you’re doing it. I wanted to talk to you about the latter but first I’d like to address number one.

So this is my take on it and my experience. It did not consciously come to me that ‘ I know’ actually shuts off opportunity. I think I was too arrogant to not know and was afraid that people thought I didn‘t know and I thought that I should know. It was the perfectionist in me that I wanted people to think that I knew everything so they would come to me for things and if they didn’t then something must have been wrong with me and I’d beat myself up over this.

I realised many things but what I want to discuss briefly here is how I realised that I’d miss out on opportunities. Because when we know something, we may think we know it all so we switch our mind off to listen and receive new information, new knowledge. And it doesn’t matter if it’s the information you already know, it’s the person/people we hear it from that matters more, Because it will make us learn and see different perspectives and experiences. It helps us make new connection and develop deeper and more meaningful one with another human being. It widens our perspectives, views, enhances the feelings of human-ness and that we’re not alone in this. And as listeners, we don’t know how impactful and privileged to be in this position of trust to be told by another person and how it can change their world too. Even if it feels that it’s something very minor to us and we may not know what benefit or impact it may have on use at that time, it may well do later on. It helps us to become more open-minded, to share more freely, to have more connection, to become more compassionate and empowered to change because we know we can.

The second part of this, without action, “I know’ isn’t enough and means nothing. Having the knowledge without doing something with it has no meaning or impact. And that’s a fact. Whether it is to take a new action or to do something different in how we act or think to make changes for the better. Knowing something is one thing and without action, it means nothing. Knowing that you’re unhealthy and needing to become healthier or unhappy and wanting to become happier or wanting something to happen but doing nothing about it, will not change anything unless you’re taking an action.

Your action matters. Going forward and changing things to make your life improved and make living easier needs action. Starting something is often hard, change is not easy but only for short period of time but staying in one place, doing the same things over and over again is more painful and difficult. It’s like a hamster in a wheel.

Doing it on your own isn’t easy either, we’re humans who need connection, support and love from others. The good news is there’s always help out there, all you’ve got to do is find the courage and ask. The worst answer you’ll get is a No and you move on and ask again until you get help. But don’t say No to yourself when you want your life to improve.

Working with a coach, mentor, therapist can help. As a coach I help you find ways to move from overwhelm or stress to calmness. To have a taster how you can do this, come along to one of the workshops I’m co-hosting with the Lean Pantry in Stamford on the 26th November 2018 or 28th January 2019 7-9pm. We will do some breathing practice and few yoga stretches to start with before a short talk on tackling stress and overwhelm, increasing productivity and moving into calmness and zen. We will then discuss it further over delicious and hearty supper which will have freshly cooked and prepared for you, and going home, you’ll take with you a super gorgeous box filled with beautiful health and beauty products that are free from anything artificial and chemical allowing you to further relax in days even weeks to come. You can find out more about the workshop here.

Change comes with action and to make noticeable changes and real transformation, consistency is needed. Motivation is needed to maintain that consistency. Hence working with a coach, who’s passionate about helping people who’ve had enough of feeling constantly tired, overwhelmed and uninspired and want to live a calmer and more organised life, can be just what you need now.

Come along to the Stress to Zen workshop if you’re near Stamford or know anyone who might benefit from coming, or arrange a free 30 min session to find out how working with me can help you make sustainable and profound change in your life and make you feel calmer and enjoy life better.